*Do you think and feel responsible for other people--for other people's feelings, thoughts, actions, choices, wants, needs, well-being, lack of well-being, and ultimate destiny?
*Do you feel anxiety or guilt when other people have a problem, and almost feel compelled to to help that person-by giving rapid fire suggestions, fixing their feelings?
*Do you over commit? Then, feel pissed at the other person?
*Do you sometimes feel like you're crazy?
*Do you come from a dysfuntional family? (probably 98% of American families are somewhat dysfunctional)
*Do you deny that your family was dysfunctional?
*Do you reject praise or compliments? Get depressed that no one compliments you?
*Have you been the victim of sexual, physical, or emotional abuse, neglect, abandonment, or alcoholism?
*Do you feel the need to be in control? Have others called you controlling?
*Do you lose sleep over other people's problems or behaviors?
*Do you wonder why you don't have any energy?
*Do you overspend, overeat, over work, or deny these things too?
*Do you tolerate abuse to keep people loving you?
*Do you look for happiness outside yourself? Maybe in other people?
*Do you find yourself in painful relationships?
*Do you think God has abandoned you?
*Do you cry alot, get depressed, overeat, get sick, do mean and nasty things to get even, act hostile, or have violent temper outbursts?
*Do you feel scared, hurt and angry?
*Do you have sex problems?
*Have you not sought help in the past because you tell yourself the problems aren't that bad, or you aren't important enough for it?
I lived with the answer yes to all of these questions. I was miserable. I felt like my life was spinning out of control. I thought I was crazy. I loved people so much and also hated them. I was physically sick all the time. If any of this resonnates with you, it's okay. There's hope! I promise. I am a recovering codependent now for 20 years. I love my life! I love my work! I live for today. I genuinely love me and others too. My life has BALANCE. I feel GOOD. You are not alone. I can help you and support you as you get healthy, and go on to live you BEST LIFE EVER!
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