Self RespectJan 28, 2022
A rumor is spread about you, and you’re caught off guard. You hear that someone apparently close to you has spread rumors to many others, and you are shocked. You are in disbelief that the one you’ve had so many good times with, been a good friend to, even maybe loved, has betrayed you and talked sh*t behind your back. To top it off their rumor is a web of LIES…
It’s brutal! Right?
Most of us have experienced this type of disrespect at least once in our lifetimes. You find yourself shocked at first, then sad, angry, etc., as you grieve the knife wound that’s been stabbed into your back. Have you ever then recognized that you have actually been in this place with this person who’s spread the rumor before? You forgave them the first time and thought your forgiveness was enough to assure good intentions going forward, and you never, in your wildest dreams, thought it would happen again. Many of us get into trouble here because we think everyone has the same heart and intentions as we do. We know that if we had been forgiven for this offense, we’d never let it happen again. Not everyone is the same.
You’ve heard that famous saying, ‘Screw me once shame on you, screw me twice, shame on me,’ and you realize you’ve been too kind, too open, too loving, too forgiving and you have been screwed again. Don’t beat yourself up! Be glad you are kind, open, loving, and forgiving…those are great character traits! However, we must decide to have those traits toward ourselves first. We must be loyal to ourselves first and leave no room for disrespect from others. As in the tweet, I saw once, “I would rather adjust my life to your absence than adjust my boundaries to accommodate your disrespect.” We must make adjustments this time around.
Self-respect is a big part of healthy self-care so setting boundaries is imperative! There is only one thing to do in this case and that is to adjust your life to their absence. Does that make you mean? No. Does that make you a b*tch? No. Does that make you unreasonable and controlling? No. That actually makes you healthy! You are pledging your loyalty to yourself first. Every time you decide to do the difficult task of setting boundaries with rumormongers, you are upping your vibe, upping your personal power, and respecting yourself.
It’s important to realize, you can outgrow your friends. If you are consistently evolving and growing personally, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, you will outgrow the vibrations of others. They will make that clear to you through disrespect. Pay attention. Set Boundaries. Send love and goodness and move on with grace..